Okay, this one is for all the guys out there.
Apparently, this is happening a lot more than I realized. So, if you didn’t get the memo... guys, nude pictures of yourself to strangers are unwelcome.
Aside from embarrassing yourself (even if you’re hung like a horse and have great definition), you’re impressing no one.
Look at it this way, if it’s not okay to hand a nude picture of yourself to a woman on a first date, how in your right mind can you possibly believe it’s a good idea to send her a nude picture of yourself before you even get a chance to meet her?
Let’s make a bit of a joke about it... it’s bad form.
I’m kind of surprised to tell you the truth but it seems like every woman I meet who does the online dating thing has the story about some clown who sent her a nude picture... or who wanted her to be in a threesome... or who wanted to be a top to her bottom.
Listen, save yourself the trouble and the embarrassment and go over to Adult Friend Finder and see what you can scrape up. Adult Friend Finder is set up for that kind of thing, even if a women is interested in the activities described above... at least, AT THE VERY LEAST! Give her some credit for being discriminating.
C’MON!
It seems that responses to the whole man sends a nude pic of himself thing can be broken down to a few select reactions as follows:
• Eeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
• Rolling of the eyes, immediately dismissing the person mailing the aforementioned nudie as a loser.
• Uncontrollable giggling.
• and (in very rare instances), yum.
Believe me, from polling I’ve done, survey says, 9.5 times out of 10, IT AIN’T YUM!
So, in closing... keep it to yourself guys.
At least until you’ve gotten a woman fooled enough into buying your bs. You’ll save yourself a lot of embarrassment and keep a really ugly stereotype about our gender from being perpetuated.
And ladies, now’s the time to chime in to confirm how you feel about these things because if I‘ve got it totally wrong, well... we men would like to know. And if I’m on the money, believe me when I say nothing aside from being blunt will ever put a stop to it.
Just sayin.’ (1887 Views pre transfer)
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When I was baptised and I was just a few months old, do you think that such a nude photo of me would be ok to show up?
Inquiring mind wants to know!
Cheers,
-E
i like nude photos before i meet anyone 'cause i am only into uncircumsized men and i think i should know that right away. let's face it, if they are cut, you can imagine the less of a man they will be--
ummmm, THIS is bust personals dude.
also, it depends on the guy and how long you've been chatting i suppose, but generally, nude pics are kinda' skeezy.
Things not making sense to you perhaps?
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Remarkable.
As in all things, the intent behind the act plays a large part in whether or not it is cool or skeezy.
If the intent is purely personal gratification through exhibitionism, with little or no regard for how it affects the other, it's prolly skeezy.
If the intent is a mutual titillation, mutually discussed and agreed upon beforehand as part of a process of deepening sexual knowledge and intrigue, it's probably cool. I don't know if that extends (get the puerile pun?) to photos showing one's self in "the act" - either with another or alone - sharing something like that might be inherently skeezy.
I mean, we're all grown ups, and not every liaison each of us has in life is part of a long-term commitment, so most of us have seen (or even - gasp - touched) naked people as objects of purely momentary shared sexual pleasure. Sharing nude photos of one's self can be a part of that acceptable process, if the intent is right.
I think, anyway.
But not ever without asking beforehand.
Let’s not confuse the issue here, I wrote:
nude pictures of yourself to strangers are unwelcome.
This is not a slam on nude pictures, this is not about being prudish, certainly every relationship should have an amount of lustful fun.
BUT THIS IS AFTER YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR KNOW SOMEONE WELL ENOUGH THAT IT IS ACCEPTABLE.
If you’ve gone out with someone once, or just emailed back and forth (and don’t have an indication otherwise) or are trying to go out with them...
...a nude shot is unlikely to do anything other than make you look like an idiot.
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